6.3: Nerves are key to a great performance

6.3: Nerves are key to a great performance

As an experienced voice and communications coach, I can tell you I am always more concerned about the client who admits to NEVER getting nervous!   

Being nervous removes complacency, keeps you focused and ultimately leads to a more energised, more engaged communication. 

When we try new things, when we make changes, we will always experience nerves.  

People who do the same thing every day, who are afraid to try new things probably do not suffer from nerves. They don’t experience nerves because they never actually challenge themselves to be greater.   

Nerves will always be present when you are “playing bigger” in your life, achieving something more.   The key is how to control them.

"The day I lose my stage-fright is the day I will stop acting."
— Sir Laurence Olivier



No one really wants to hear this, but if you want to build speaking confidence — you must hear your words aloud, you must get them out of your head. 

Speaking is a physical action and the muscles which make words need to be used. 

You need to live and breathe these words. 

To do that, first you need to stop doing three things:

  1. Stop going over stuff in your head looking at slides

  2. Stop thinking you don’t need to rehearse aloud — you do!

  3. Stop saying you don’t have time or I’d be too embarrassed


I always ask clients, "How important is this to you?"

The answer is usually, "Olivia, it’s really important….!"

If that's the case, then there’s no magic wand.

Get up and get speaking aloud until you embody your content.

I am not saying you need to learn it as a script - but you do need to be very familiar with what you are saying.

We encourage clients to rehearse aloud at least three times — standing up, as you drive to work, moving about, whatever works for you.

But the words need breath and life before you share them in the real event if you are to master vocal gravitas. 

There is no quick win with this.

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#1: The Hidden Enemies of Vocal Gravitas

  • Introduction to Lesson 1: The Hidden Enemies of Vocal Gravitas
  • 1.2: Establishing your foundations
  • 1.3: The 8 Steps to Perfect Posture
  • 1.4: Final comments on posture
  • 1.5: Saying goodbye to tension and strain
  • 1.6: Your 3-minute tension release workout
  • 1.7: Lesson Wrap and Reflection
  • 1.8: Recap: The Hidden Enemies of Vocal Gravitas1

#2: The Power of Your Breath

  • Introduction to Lesson 2: The Power of Your Breath
  • 2.2: Becoming aware of your breath
  • 2.3: Self-Awareness and Your Breath
  • 2.4: Building our Breathing Awareness Further
  • 2.5: Connecting your breath to sounds and words
  • 2.6: The role breath plays in "fight or flight"
  • 2.7: Lesson wrap, reflection and exercises
  • 2.8: Recap: The Power of Your Breath
  • 2.9: Helpful resources

#3: Volume and Power: Does My Voice Sound Big In This?

  • Introduction to Lesson 3: Volume and Power
  • 3.2: The "Candle in the Wind" exercise
  • 3.3: The "science bit"
  • 3.4: How to project your voice
  • 3.5: Breath support to create more volume and power
  • 3.6: A trip down memory lane
  • 3.7: Lesson wrap and reflection
  • 3.8: Recap: Volume and Power

#4: How to Make Every Word Sing

  • Introduction to Lesson 4: How to Make Every Word Sing
  • 4.2: Speaking from a place of intention and readiness1
  • 4.3: The power of emotional connection in your words
  • 4.4: All words are not created equally
  • 4.5: How to naturally introduce vocal contrast
  • 4.6: Understanding the role of the "power word"
  • 4.7: Understanding the role of pitch
  • 4.8: Lesson Wrap and Reflection
  • 4.9: Recap: How to Make Every Word Sing
  • 4.10: Helpful resources

#5: The Art of Silence

  • Introduction to Lesson 5: The Art of Silence
  • 5.2: The honesty in a pause
  • 5.3: Taking your pause, taking your breath
  • 5.4: A common misconception about pausing
  • 5.5: Exercise: Exploring the use of Pause
  • 5.6: Lesson wrap and reflections
  • 5.7: Recap: The Art of Silence

#6: Overcome Nerves and Harnessing Your Voice

  • Introduction to Lesson 6: Overcoming Nerves and Harnessing Your Voice
  • 6.2: Reframing your relationship with nerves
  • 6.3: Nerves are key to a great performance
  • 6.4: How to rehearse for success
  • 6.5: The 10-minute preparation for success [Part 1: Body]
  • 6.6: The 10-minute preparation for success [Part 2: Voice]
  • 6.7: Overcoming the "brain freeze" moment2
  • 6.8: Lesson wrap and reflections
  • 6.9: Recap: Overcoming Nerves

#7: Speaking with Clarity: The Beauty in Precision

  • Introduction to Lesson 7: Speaking with Clarity
  • 7.2: The science of speaking clearly
  • 7.3: Hard-Working Articulator: The Tongue
  • 7.4: Hard-Working Articulator: The Lips
  • 7.5: Hard-working articulator: The jaw
  • 7.6: Five-minute Clarity and Precision Workout [Exercise]
  • 7.7: Lesson Wrap and Reflection
  • 7.8: Recap: Speaking with Clarity
  • 7.9: Helpful resources

#8: The Hidden Mystery of Emotion v Power In Our Words

  • Introduction to Lesson 8: The Hidden Mystery in Our Words
  • 8.2: The hidden secrets of vowels
  • 8.3: Vowels and emotional release
  • 8.4: Consonants time
  • 8.5: Lesson Wrap and Reflection
  • 8.6: Recap: The Hidden Mystery of Emotion v Power In Our Words
  • 8.7: Helpful resources

#9: How to Own Your Room

  • Introduction to Lesson 9: How to Own Your Room
  • 9.2: The 3-step technique to owning your room
  • 9.3: Thinking Top, and Thinking Bottom [Exercise]
  • 9.4: Lesson Wrap and Reflection
  • 9.5: Recap: How to Own Your Room

#10: Vocal Gravitas in a Virtual World

  • Introduction to Lesson 10: Vocal Gravitas in a Virtual World
  • 10.2: Your new 5-minute ritual
  • 10.3: Programme Wrap!

Resources

  • Confident Speak 360° Presence Booklet.pdf
  • Great Video Examples of Spoken Word